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Comment on Making a Difference by Debby Neiswonger

Debby Neiswonger — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 12:26:34 +0000

Hi – I would like to say thanks for an interesting post about a subject I have had an interest in for a long time now. I have been lurking and reading the posts avidly so just wanted to express my thanks for providing me with some very good reading material. I look forward to more, and taking a more proactive part in the discussions here, whilst learning too!!

Comment on Nothing There by melissa

melissa — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:35:57 +0000

TY Splinteredones

Comment on Nothing There by melissa

melissa — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:35:16 +0000

I really hope so. External validation always seems elusive and quite often makes me feel like I’m sucking energy out of other people or something. It’s funny how I can consider the negative qualities part of my nature, and the positive ones a temporary gift. Maybe there’s something about trust in there too?

Comment on Nothing There by The_Timekeeper

The_Timekeeper — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 00:49:21 +0000

I think we all move from one validation to the next … some of us just depend on it more for identity, centering, confidence, coping. Coping most of all … with whatever the holes that make the little gaps feel like gasps. In the end, perhaps your final validation will be as one who has found peace, balance and no longer needs external, superficial validation because she will have walked the journey to personal knowing herself.

Comment on Nothing There by Splinteredones

Splinteredones — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:36:10 +0000

There’s just a ton there. Get that you can’t see it, but others certainly do. Trust me on this one.

Comment on The If-Then Voice by melissa

melissa — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:05:15 +0000

You’ve just made me realise – trust is at the heart of this and something I probably need to look at. Not trusting others, not trusting nature, and, most powerfully, not even trusting myself…
Maybe I need to fight the distrust voice too?!

Comment on The If-Then Voice by Splinteredones

Splinteredones — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:41:24 +0000

Ah, the if-then bugaboo! If I trust then I will be totally f***ed. Again. Irritating to say the least. Our problem right now is that so many splinters still believe the Furies (our autocratic mechanism
for keeping things in line and in contro thru punishment). Good for you for looking at this and for fighting back.

Comment on A Good Dentist… by melissa

melissa — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:26:20 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing your story – and showing just how possible it is to really move forwards!

Comment on A Good Dentist… by Megan

Megan — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:53:06 +0000

I can look back and laugh about it now, well, I guess I was laughing about it then too….but the condition of my teeth was the biggest fiasco on my wedding day. Six months before my wedding day, I had to have two teeth removed, a consequence of my eating disorder. One was a hidden back molar which did not require an implant …however, the other tooth (or lack thereof) was a little more noticeable.

In the end, there was no way to have my permanent implant done by my wedding day. No big deal I thought, I would just get a temporary. Then, I found out my standard dentist was not going to be available. So, just two weeks before my wedding, I was left to search Chicago for a dentist that was credible, participated in my dental plan, and most importantly could make a temporary tooth ASAP!

Eventually I found a dentist, and the day before my wedding / the night of my dress rehearsal, my family had to take me to pick up my darn fake tooth! It was not only uncomfortable, but it also gave me a lisp like nobody’s business. However, it was better than a toothless smile.

The next day, the photographer arrived at the hotel to take us for pictures around the city. Glancing one last time in the mirror I realized I didn’t have my tooth! I knew I had taken it out to brush my teeth, but I had no clue where it went!! Frantically, I had all my bridesmaids searching the room, but to no avail. We had to leave for pictures otherwise we would be late for the ceremony. Trying to hold back my tears, I greeted my soon to be husband with mascara running down my face.

Thankfully the photographer said she could easily add in some white for the missing tooth in the pics. I am not in any way, shape or form a fan of “photoshop,” but desperate times call for desperate measures. After getting back in the car to head to the venue, we received a call from one of my bridesmaids….”We found your tooth!” I had left it in my parent’s hotel room when I had popped up to visit. After a quick detour back to the hotel, I walked in and sheepishly ask the lady at the front desk if a tooth had been dropped off for a Megan. There IT was, all wrapped in tissue. Calm had returned!

Even though I spoke my poem and vows with a bit of a lisp, our wedding could not have been more perfect. The temporary tooth was then left at home for the honeymoon and my nickname on our trip eventually became his “toothless wonder”…how romantic!

Way too young to be having as much work done as I have had. But kicking butt at recovery, so I can only move forward and maintain them the best I can.

Thank you for your thoughts and words.

Megan
Generation Mirror
“Revolutionizing Reflections”

Comment on Speaking Out by Angela Garcia

Angela Garcia — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:15:06 +0000

I really enjoyed this blog and the voice you use when writing. I honestly think that after dealing with an eating disorder and being able to over come it you realize a lot the lies that are told about them and even though the media talk about it a little bit, the bit it does talk about is awkward and sometimes not accurate. For example I hate when people mentions how beautiful a girl with an eating disorder is, it has nothing to do with what she really looks like, she isn’t able to see her beauty. I’m not sure if I worded that correctly. But I enjoyed this blog.