Archive for the ‘Beliefs, Perceptions and Truths’ Category

Formative Fiction

Saturday, July 4th, 2009

The line between fact and fiction is gossamer thin; the difference, vast – but only when you look closely.

I couldn’t live without literature – but you’re likely to be disappointed if you don’t recognise the line and you don’t understand the difference.

The only problem with a childhood spent burrowing in books is that the real thing doesn’t always correspond with the written version. It doesn’t quite live up to the expectation – and you’re not necessarily prepared you for the disappointment.

Aspiring to the unobtainable is always slightly problematic.

You tend to let yourself down.

Forming Beliefs

Thursday, June 4th, 2009


I am an educated women; but I’ve still had to resort to the dictionary to really pin this one down. It says: something that somebody believes in – a statement, principle or doctorine that a person or group accepts as true”.

I hadn’t given the word a lot of consideration until recently. Belief was all about religion and ideas; it hadn’t really entered the therapeutic vocabulary.

This was quite an oversight.

Belief is right at the centre of everything. What you believe about yourself is so important that I didn’t even consider it. The link between thought and action is so obvious that I totally missed it. And had to go right back to the beginning.


The Pig Nose Story

Monday, May 25th, 2009

My pondering on perception has opened a whole can of worms.

I’ve been going round and round and round and coming back to the same conclusion: we’re all unique and we all see things a bit differently.

It’s best illustrated through marmite. You either love it or hate it. A marmite lover talking about marmite is likely to create a very different impression of the flavour sensation to that given by a marmite hater.

As I said, it’s all subjective.

And subjectivity is a precarious basis for self perception.


Fiction to Fact

Sunday, May 3rd, 2009

A lesson in the precarious world of perception.

For years, I believed that my voice was way too loud. I had a whole issue about speaking too much; was convinced that the volume was a notch or two too high, that I came across as overbearing or demanding.

One day, I was told that my voice was so quiet that it could barely be heard. That, by unspoken agreement, windows were closed when I was in the room so that any other noise was blocked out.

Moral of the story: your head can get it wrong.


Adam and Eve and Self Belief

Friday, May 1st, 2009

When you reach a certain age, running around with no clothes on stops being socially acceptable.

It’s the best example that I can think of to show how we learn about the intangible things. How an emotional experience can be as tangible as a physical one.

The hot pan analogy started me thinking about how we form beliefs about things. Adam and Eve have taken it a step further. We don’t just form physical beliefs. We also form emotional ones.

And I think that it works in the same way as the burning pan scenario. We learn by reaction.