Yesterday, I went on a rally for Parliamentary Reform. On a grey and drizzly afternoon, we joined a group of people in Trafalgar Square who were pushing to change the system, in the hope of ensuring that all voices could be heard.
This is something that matters a lot to me.
Spurred into action by an indignant anger – and propelled through my discomfort of changing the day’s agenda by a sense that I should put my feet where my mouth was, I am still tingling from the excitement – and have learnt as much about myself as I have about Parliamentary Reform.
This is what I mean about recovery taking place in context.
This is why it’s important for me, every now and again, to take a deep breath and say, “yes, I’ll come, I’d like to do that” – even if it means that my lunch will have to shift back a time-slot, or I do something that I wouldn’t normally do –
Because I am richer for the experience, I think; and I have learnt some things about myself – and other people – that I didn’t previously know.
Like the fact that loud noises and crowds don’t need to be threatening, when the intention is good and the connection really felt.
Or, that it is empowering to stand up for your beliefs and take ownership of them, rather than waiting – as I so often do – to gain approval for an opinion, or check that it will go down well.
Because the loud speaker wasn’t very loud and it was hard to compete against the traffic and morris dancers, we left Trafalgar Square and traipsed down, towards the river – past the Horse Guards and the gates to Downing Street – heading towards the first port of call.
A group of young and inspiring campaigners led the way and we followed, purple clad and banner waving: babies in buggies, the old, the young, the singles, the holding hands, families, friends – and those just making a point. Through stopped traffic and past the landmarks of London, we ambled; and, I felt, in a way that I rarely feel, strangely engaged – and connected – and part of what was going on.
We reached Smith Square and, even though the excitement was building and I am normally scared of people, the atmosphere was friendly – and positive – and the message was not lost by a surge of anger, or buried under the hype. It was, instead, inspiring to see how many people really cared; and, I didn’t realise, until the crowd started to disburse, that the sense of shared commitment, had somehow suspended my usual fear –
It is important, I think, to have something to fight for.
Not in angry sense of the word – but just because I didn’t really use to care.


I completely agree. The whole getting out there and doing something spontaneous – connecting with the wider world and issues beyond yourself – can really help with recovery. It’s like defying the fearful norm, engaging with something else beyond what the eating disorder would allow and being open-minded to fresh experiences. You never know: you may end up inspired, empowered and discover something new about yourself.
You may even end up playing a part in a good cause being realised. Even if it wasn’t as big as the London demo (you guys got all the fun and attention) it felt good to be in the moment and add my purple thumb to the Manchester version. It felt good to stand up for something I believe and not listen to the usual “No!” voice in the back of my mind. In terms of recovery, those kinds of ‘peak experiences’ are really good and I’m looking for more, both for my own good and the greater good.
I was there too on Saturday – although not for too long as I had a restless 12 year old with me but I felt it was important to be there because I do believe in it. I live in a very safe constituency which was more or less ignored throughout the election campaign.
I am now thinking of going next Saturday (but without said 12 year old!) so I can stay through the whole thing. I did notice it was a remarkably friendly demo.