Self Harm

It’s hard to know where to start with this one.

It’s not something I’m very comfortable talking about.

- even though it’s on the rise, and even though it’s blazened across the tabloid on a regular basis.

Maybe it’s the apparent casualness of it all that’s so unsettling. Maybe it feels like we’ve got complacent about teenagers shredding their arms: self mutilation is commonplace.

No. It’s not.

The complacency is wrong; the normalisation is dangerous.

Because self harm’s like any other addiction. Another habit that starts small – and spirals until you sever that artery. Another quick fix shot – that simply makes the next hit inevitable.

It’s just another way of trying to say something and another form of trying to suppress something – without achieving either.

People misinterpret self harm. It doesn’t communicate like talking does. People get scared and shut down, instead; they make assumptions and leap to conclusions.

The suppression’s only temporary; the release, a precursor to the next urge. Self harm may divert your attention from the real issue – for a little while – but the problem’s still festering away.

Skin heals quicker than the soul.

There’s no real transference between the two. The one will not change the other.

Does it sound like I’m telling you what to do? Like I don’t understand the need to get rid of that anger? Like I don’t get the temptation?

Does it sound like I’m unsympathetic to the pain?

Does it sound like I don’t get that it’s a bizarre form of punishment when you’re feeling pretty damn bad about yourself?

I do. But –

Self harm is a false comfort.

It’s an unfair punishment.

It’s a whole new problem on top of whatever the real issue is, whatever’s really going on.

A socially acceptable celebrity endorsed past time? I don’t like to think so. They’re probably feeling as bad as you are.

Attention seeking? Maybe, but that’s a bit of an issue by itself.

A teenage fad? The statistics might well disprove this; either way, the scars will last beyond your teenage years.

The answer and the advice?

Thinking about something doesn’t mean that you have to go through with it -

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One Response to “Self Harm”

  1. Dani says:

    I’ve self harmed for around 13 years now and have thousands of scars covering my body. My eating disorder came later. Now I’m trying to come through the anorexia, my self harm rears its ugly head again. I’ve found that each problem tends to be a substitute for the other – both of which are so not worth the damage they have caused. It doesn’t solve anything, just creates more problems.